Sleep Compromise


Today is the first day of my wife’s new work schedule.

She’s had a lot of them, but most recently she’s been working 10 am-7 pm, a schedule that she’s had before and that worked out pretty well for us. Today she starts 7 am-4 pm, a move that will enable her to more readily find a therapist. So this is a long-term, more or less permanent change in her schedule.

My wife is not a morning person, it should be said.

I’ve changed with every one of her schedule changes, but this one I have not. I’m still up around 8:30 am or so to take my vitals and morning meds, I’m still going to bed around midnight or 1 am. But my wife will have long been to bed when I get there.

And that’s a weird feeling for me, someone who’s only rarely gone to bed at a different time than she does.

I like the feeling of cozying up to her for bedtime snuggles, and holding her while she drifts off to sleep. It’s a very comforting thing. But now I’m coming to bed some two and three hours after her, and waking up some three hours after she wakes, and it’s odd to me.

We’ve found a compromise, though. When it’s time for her to go to bed, I stop what I’m doing and go snuggle her for a little while, ideally until she’s asleep. Then I get back up and finish my day before coming to bed and snuggling some more.

It’s not a bad compromise, but it still feels a little weird to get up once she’s asleep. Last night my back started bothering me so I got up before she was asleep and got on my heating pad, something that could have happened any night regardless of when I would have gone to bed.

I hope this separate schedules thing works out in the long run. If not, I can always switch to her schedule – I’ve done it before. But I like staying up a little later, and I really don’t relish being up at 5:30 in the morning, either.

We’ll see how things shake out.

July 5, 2015: Three Good Things


Today I’m back to the regular “good things about my day” routine. I’m actually looking forward to it. There were some good things about my past week’s worth of days that I would have like to have shared, but I felt it more important to stick to the “good things about myself” theme that I was working on last week.

1. Today was a lazy day and yet I’m going to manage to check off everything on my list but one. This is further proof that the checklist should be a bare minimum list, something I’m easily capable of doing with the right motivation. (Protip: “completing the checklist” should be the right motivation, every day.)

2. This evening I had a flare-up of irritability – I wouldn’t even classify it as an irrational episode. Seems the sensory inquiry tool works just fine even at that early stage.

3. The best part of my day was the nap that I took with my wife. For an hour and a half we slept, with my arm wrapped around her and her snuggled into my chest.